The hopes and wishes we have are usually pretty shallow. We usually wish for what we want, something convenient for us. But maybe God/Buddha’s love is not so straightforward.
It’s like when we were children and our parents made us eat broccoli, carrots, green peppers, etc. — vegetables or something that we didn’t want to eat. We’d rather eat chocolate, chips, and cake. They gave us the food we didn’t want but that was good for us.
When we wanted a toy or something, we might have asked our grandparents. They usually tended to spoil us. But if parents think and care for the future of their kids, they’ll give kids something to make them grow.
And God/Buddha does the same.
We aren’t often given just what we want, what we wish or hope for. And sometimes it seems as though our wishes have been betrayed. But actually, this is training that will grow our hope.
Erich Fromm said in his book “The Revolution of Hope”:
“Hope is paradoxical. It is neither passive waiting nor is it unrealistic forcing of circumstances that cannot occur … .
To hope means to be ready at every moment for that which is not yet born, and yet not become desperate if there is no birth in our lifetime.
There is no sense in hoping for that which already exists or for that which cannot be.
Those whose hope is weak settle down for comfort or for violence; those whose hope is strong see and cherish all signs of new life and are ready every moment to help the birth of that which is ready to be born.”
And these are Jesus’s words:
“Blessed is anyone who does not stumble on account of me.” Matthew 11:6
What Jesus meant was that people project their expectations onto him, then when they find that was an illusion, then that will make them feel they got hurt when their expectations aren’t realized and they’ll think their wish was betrayed.
People think about Jesus, who is the savior, a powerful prophet, leader, and teacher, who came to save the people of Israel as the Messiah.
People expect him to perform miracles. People project their wishes and hope onto him. But these are the people who will “stumble on account of him.”
Apostle Peter, who led Jesus’s disciples, also stumbled on account of Jesus.
The famous “Denial of Peter.”